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Da Pinoy Nation Needs To See A Shrink

April 4, 2010

Da Pinoy is taking another beating – for good reason – because of stupid behavior and irrational beliefs. We, Pinoys need to learn more about handling the truth – because obviously, as a nation – we, Filipinos can’t handle the truth. We will rather believe that everything is A-okey and all is fine in the world – until another disaster strikes and exposes how our bad practices destroy the lives of many. We reacted angrily to the Desperate Housewives comment, yet the faux diploma retailers in Recto are thriving – if there is a demand, the supply will be found. We reacted angrily to Chip Tsao, seemingly indifferent to the fact that “there are on average around 140,000 Filipinos in Hong Kong, of whom most work as foreign domestic helpers. Filipino maids are known by the locals as feiyungs and the slang bun muis or bun buns. In some cases Filipino women with university degrees are willing to work as maids and nannies for the higher salary and better lifestyle they will receive in Hong Kong than they could make at home”. We elect irresponsible bozos and stupids into positions of responsibility, and we get miffed when told to get our sh*t together.

Come to think of it – before there was a comment on the behavior, there was the act – the illogical behavior itself. Though of course, we can debate which behaviors are believed to be illogical. Bottomline is, if we truly want to stop all the bad press – don’t shoot the messenger, stop acting stupidly. In feel-good-speak, change the behavior being singled out – is that hard to do? Obviously, to da Pinoy of the Palusot Society, it is hard.

BenK’s comment couldn’t have come at a better time when he quipt:

All the people who are quick to jump on Adam Carolla (who has never been anywhere near the list of people I think are entertaining or funny, btw) in righteous indignation are missing a pretty clear pattern of poor impressions the rest of the world has of this country. One Desperate Housewife or one Chip Tsao or one Adam Carolla could be passed off as a misinformed individual, but these “insults” come from all directions. Those who make them may – hypothetically, anyway – factually be wrong (although I personally don’t think so), but that’s really beside the point; the Philippines has a big image problem. Getting mad and screaming “We’re not really like that and you’re an asshole for saying it!” actually just makes it worse.

Adam Carolla may be a crass d*ckhead, but he was spot-on with just about everything he said (including the sex thing). And maybe the reason it stings so much (as did the DH thing, and the Chip Tsao thing) is that people actually realize he was right, and just don’t want to admit it to themselves — which, if you think about it, is the root cause of most of this country’s problems that give it the poor global image in the first place.

There is a clear disconnect between reality and – the Filipinos beliefs and views of this reality – insane to the membrane.

My inner Dr. Phil was wondering what can be done about this dysfunction. I started by reading up on self-esteem and ended in a page called Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy – REBT. Gadzooks another buzzword. What we don’t know will not hurt us? Yeah, tell that to a terminal cancer patient who regrets not taking the initial screening tests that could have prevented him from going terminal. Better to know, the early bird gets the worm ‘ika nga.

I know nothing about REBT. I just know something’s amiss – and REBT might be a viable framework for approaching this balat-sibuyas thingie. However, since I am not a licensed REBT practioner (obviously), it is best to cite the licensed professionals who are into this therapeUtic modality. Here’s a quick introduction on the topic from an REBT site.

What is REBT?

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is a form of psychotherapy created by Albert Ellis in the 1950’s.

REBT (pronounced R.E.B.T. — it is not pronounced rebbit) is based on the premise that whenever we become upset, it is not the events taking place in our lives that upset us; it is the beliefs that we hold that cause us to become depressed, anxious, enraged, etc. The idea that our beliefs upset us was first articulated by Epictetus around 2,000 years ago: “Men are disturbed not by events, but by the views which they take of them.”

The Goal of Happiness

According to Albert Ellis and to REBT, the vast majority of us want to be happy. We want to be happy whether we are alone or with others; we want to get along with others—especially with one or two close friends; we want to be well informed and educated; we want a good job with good pay; and we want to enjoy our leisure time.

Of course life doesn’t always allow us to have what we want; our goal of being happy is often thwarted by the “slings and arrows of outrageous fortune.” When our goals are blocked, we can respond in ways that are healthy and helpful, or we can react in ways that are unhealthy and unhelpful.

The ABC Model

Albert Ellis and REBT posit that our reaction to having our goals blocked (or even the possibility of having them blocked) is determined by our beliefs. To illustrate this, Dr. Ellis developed a simple ABC format to teach people how their beliefs cause their emotional and behavioral responses:

A. Something happens.
B. You have a belief about the situation.
C. You have an emotional reaction to the belief.

For example:

A. Your employer falsely accuses you of taking money from her purse and threatens to fire you.
B. You believe, “She has no right to accuse me. She’s a bitch!”
C. You feel angry.

If you had held a different belief, your emotional response would have been different:

A. Your employer falsely accuses you of taking money from her purse and threatens to fire you.
B. You believe, “I must not lose my job. That would be unbearable.”
C. You feel anxious.

The ABC model shows that A does not cause C. It is B that causes C. In the first example, it is not your employer’s false accusation and threat that make you angry; it is your belief that she has no right to accuse you, and that she is a bitch. In the second example, it is not her accusation and threat that make you anxious; it is the belief that you must not lose your job, and that losing your job would be unbearable.

The Three Basic Musts

Although we all express ourselves differently, according to Albert Ellis and REBT, the beliefs that upset us are all variations of three common irrational beliefs. Each of the three common irrational beliefs contains a demand, either about ourselves, other people, or the world in general. These beliefs are known as “The Three Basic Musts.”

1. I must do well and win the approval of others for my performances or else I am no good.

2. Other people must treat me considerately, fairly and kindly, and in exactly the way I want them to treat me. If they don’t, they are no good and they deserve to be condemned and punished.

3. I must get what I want, when I want it; and I must not get what I don’t want. It’s terrible if I don’t get what I want, and I can’t stand it.

The first belief often leads to anxiety, depression, shame, and guilt. The second belief often leads to rage, passive-aggression and acts of violence. The third belief often leads to self-pity and procrastination. It is the demanding nature of the beliefs that causes the problem. Less demanding, more flexible beliefs lead to healthy emotions and helpful behaviors.

Disputing

The goal of REBT is to help people change their irrational beliefs into rational beliefs. Changing beliefs is the real work of therapy and is achieved by the therapist disputing the client’s irrational beliefs. For example, the therapist might ask, “Why must you win everyone’s approval?” “Where is it written that other people must treat you fairly?” “Just because you want something, why must you have it?” Disputing is the D of the ABC model. When the client tries to answer the therapist’s questions, s/he sees that there is no reason why s/he absolutely must have approval, fair treatment, or anything else that s/he wants.

Insight

Albert Ellis and REBT contend that although we all think irrationally from time to time, we can work at eliminating the tendency. It’s unlikely that we can ever entirely eliminate the tendency to think irrationally, but we can reduce the frequency, the duration, and the intensity of our irrational beliefs by developing three insights:

1. We don’t merely get upset but mainly upset ourselves by holding inflexible beliefs.

2. No matter when and how we start upsetting ourselves, we continue to feel upset because we cling to our irrational beliefs.

3. The only way to get better is to work hard at changing our beliefs. It takes practice, practice, practice.

Acceptance

Emotionally healthy human beings develop an acceptance of reality, even when reality is highly unfortunate and unpleasant. REBT therapists strive to help their clients develop three types of acceptance: (1) unconditional self-acceptance; (2) unconditional other-acceptance; and (3) unconditional life-acceptance. Each of these types of acceptance is based on three core beliefs:

Unconditional self-acceptance:

1. I am a fallible human being; I have my good points and my bad points.
2. There is no reason why I must not have flaws.
3. Despite my good points and my bad points, I am no more worthy and no less worthy than any other human being.

Unconditional other-acceptance:

1. Other people will treat me unfairly from time to time.
2. There is no reason why they must treat me fairly.
3. The people who treat me unfairly are no more worthy and no less worthy than any other human being.

Unconditional life-acceptance:

1. Life doesn’t always work out the way that I’d like it to.
2. There is no reason why life must go the way I want it to
3.  Life is not necessarily pleasant but it is never awful and it is nearly always bearable.

As far as I am concerned, REBT makes sense. Maybe it can help us address our collective nonsense?

What do you think?

This enough I know, until we, Pinoys,  don’t address this dysfunction – expect more jokes to come. And lots of us will not be laughing when the jokes are on us because we run our state of affairs like one big joke.

Get your shit together Philippines – that’s not a joke!

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25 Comments
  1. Instead of focusing on getting their shit together, Pinoys prefer to hurl invectives at people who make biting observations about The Truth about Pinoys. That’s where all the energy goes. It’s no wonder none is left for the true imperative for a sad nation such as ours — achieving real results in order for our society to earn the sustained respect of the global community.

    Spot on indeed, Da Pinas is a palusot society.😀

  2. Lala permalink

    I think somebody’s using benign0’s email address to post this odd series of comments. Heads up guys!

    It’s probably somebody from your rival blogs who had admin rights to know his address.

  3. jonphil permalink

    Herein is sample of penoy thinking/mentality (pex>buhay pinoy):

    Thread: Grains laid on highway: run over or drive around?

    PUBLIC roads are intended for vehicles. No individual has the right to barricade it for PERSONAL use – whether or not there is heavy traffic.

    Having no grain dryer is not a reason. Following that logic: public roads can then be converted as sala, dining area, and bedroom, if one has no shelter of their own.

    Barricading a road – esp a national highway – is prone to vehicular accidents. My own experience on many instances: driving at 80kph somewhere in tarlac on a sharp curve, suddenly I am confronted by dried grains AND an oncoming vehicle (bus/trucks). Sudden stops resulted to passenger being injured and/or cargoes (breakable ones) being damaged.

    Matter of life or death / you will get mobbed (just like here in pex or EDSA 3)? That is BS blackmail.

    Another penoy SELFISH trait that is condoned. You tolerate something, you reinforce the behaviour – becomes a way of life.

    Other reactions:

    > konsiderasyon na lang yan, pwede mo sagasaan but wag mo bilisan sasakyan mo para wag kumalat ang palay.

    > Kung wala namang kasalubong na sasakyan at sinagasaan mo pa rin because of some sense of moral righteousness eh nasa sa iyo pa rin yun. Just be ready to explain that sense of righteousness when the farmers’ townmates block you a few meters down the road at baka naman maliwanagan sila.

  4. REBT is therapeutic approach whereas we are told “pag mataas na ang kahoy, mahirap na gabutin”. The solution is to teach the youngs not rescuing the olds.

    We keep hearing this in movies that people can’t be taught when “their cup is full”. I long believe that there is no more technical materials that can used to rescue the psyche of Filipinos.

  5. Lala:

    here’s the dude’s IP – 120.28.126.21

    IP is from the Philippines – and not from Sydney.

    I have moved the false replies to the Trash.

    If it happens again – we’ll just have to revert to the policy of limiting comments to registered accounts only.

    % APNIC found the following authoritative answer from: whois.apnic.net

    % [whois.apnic.net node-2]
    % Whois data copyright terms http://www.apnic.net/db/dbcopyright.html

    inetnum: 120.28.64.0 – 120.28.127.255
    netname: GBB-SAN-JUAN
    descr: GBB SAN JUAN
    country: PH
    admin-c: AA400-AP
    tech-c: JV60-AP
    status: ASSIGNED NON-PORTABLE
    mnt-by: MAINT-MGR-AP
    changed: staff@globenet.com.ph 20090819
    source: APNIC

    person: Allan Abarquez
    nic-hdl: AA400-AP
    e-mail: aaa81020@globenet.com.ph
    address: 12/F Valero Telepark
    address: Valero St.,
    address: Makati City
    phone: +63-2-797-8332
    fax-no: +63-2-797-7177
    country: PH
    changed: jonjon@globenet.com.ph 20041206
    mnt-by: MAINT-MGR-AP
    source: APNIC

    person: Juvert Vinluan
    nic-hdl: JV60-AP
    e-mail: jmv81144@globenet.com.ph
    address: 12 Flr. Valero Telepark.
    address: 111 Valero St. Makati City.
    phone: +63-2-797-8335
    fax-no: +63-2-797-7177
    country: PH
    changed: jonjon@globenet.com.ph 20050209
    mnt-by: MAINT-MGR-AP
    source: APNIC

  6. Zadkiel permalink

    that guy really needs a shrink

  7. hi lala,

    the commenting system allows unregistered users to comment provided they give a username and email address.

    someone was spoofing b0 using the IP address above . definitely no admin access.

  8. Kinda flattering actually. I think they’re bozos infesting the Adam Carolla Facebook page who are doing what Da Pinoy does best — assuming that “benign0” is a certain Pierre or whoever else is making counterarguments against them. Typical indeed.😀

  9. It’s dangerous for a Pinoy to point out the flaw of Pinoys. Remember Freddie Aguilar? The onion skinned mob almost exiled the messenger to the madhouse. We truly need to get our shit together.

  10. jonphil permalink

    Is human life equivalent to few kilos of palay?

    Few kilos of palay lost – VS – damage to vehicle, life/lives lost? (will they shoulder the damage/replace life lost?)

    Konsiderasyon? To start with, who is so selfish at walang konsiderasyon to encroach a public road for their PERSONAL use?

    Irony of all: grain driers hardly pay their taxes – to build these roads.

    Penoy nga naman… can’t understand the frame of thinking.

  11. Lala permalink

    Hi BongV. I thought that the only people who’d know what email address benigs uses to post comments would be those admins of other sites that bash you guys.

    Is that top comment really a comment from benign0? I noticed his name is wrong.

  12. Lala permalink

    I mean the spelling looks wrong. Is that an O?

  13. hi lala:

    the ones that remain are those of the orig b0.

    there’s that possiblity that admins in other sites gave out bennie’s email add which happens to be an account for trollers.

  14. Actually my email address benign0@yahoo.com is public knowledge and it is displayed in GRP.com.

  15. Hi.

    I stayed in Central Luzon for a few years din and I can say that “palay drying” practice does take a lot of getting used to. I considered it, at that time, to be normal and my driving style adapted to it — pero nakakainis pa rin minsan. Aggressive drivers will have difficulty getting used to those barricades.

    Anyway, not having a dryer is the cause kaya napapadpad sila sa kalye. However, not doing anything about it is inexcusable. Sobrang tagal nang issue nito eh. The farmers aren’t the only people to blame diyan. Kulang pa ng basketball court “donation” ang mga pulitiko.😉

    Mas maganda sana kung yung cause ng pagkalat sa kalye ng palay is dahil sa sobra sobrang production ng palay. At least astig na reason.:)

  16. Not to mention the crapshoot the rest of get to take in buying rice and maybe chomping down on a piece of gravel later.

    Mmm! Rice that’s been sprinkled in gravel and soaked in diesel exhaust for a few days? Why, give me an extra big serving!

  17. Danding Tan permalink

    I hope there is some way to scatter those palays so they do not put them there.

  18. With today’s technology, there should be other options for farmers to explore on how to dry their palay. However, for the ordinary farmer you see on the highways, I think access to technology will be an issue. That’s where government intervention comes into play.

    Tingin ko, political issue rin yan pagdating sa probinsya kaya ganyan yan.

  19. I always thought baliktad. Mas bad trip pag foreigner ang humirit.

    Pero teka, oo nga…Come to think of it, pag malayo yung foreigner na humirit ng mali sa atin, badtrip ang karamihan (Pinoy Pride!). Pero pag harapan, karamihan tiklop (Pinoy fried!). Pag Pinoy, pag suwabe yung pag puna, welcome and constructive ang dating. Pero pag “nagging” ang pagpuna, mas asar ang Pinoy –suntukan na.

    I may have to retract a comment from somewhere…hehehe.

    Um, what was the old issue about Ka Freddie?

  20. Nothing to be Proud of as a Pinoy permalink

    Remember this guy?

    ‘The Philippines is a nation of starstruck ignoramuses’
    by Don Pedero
    Philippine Star 29 October 2000

    Last July 23, I wrote about Nasty (short for Anastacio), a balikbayan from Los Angeles, who, while vacationing in Manila, had nothing to say but negative comments about the Philippines and the Filipinos. The article elicited a deluge of comments from our readers. Though some agreed with his curt observations, most were enraged at the repulsive way he acted and whined.

    For me, he was the classic epitome of the “crow perched on a carabao,” thinking and acting nauseatingly superior just because he has become an American citizen, inequitably comparing everything here to how they are in the first world. I was particularly irked by his repulsive “know it all” attitude and peeved no end by his irritating Waray-American twang.

    Those who have not read that article may access philstar.com and click archives, then select July 23 and click Lifestyle. The article is entitled “Little Brown Americans.” As a backgrounder, here is an excerpt:

    The next day, I took them on a little city tour and accompanied them to do extra shopping at the duty-free shop. They were to leave two days later for their respective provinces (Randy is from Pampanga, Nasty, from Samar).

    “God, ang dilem-dilem naman ditow (it is so dark here)!” screamed Nasty in his characteristic Taglish slang, “At ang inet-inet pa (and so warm)!

    * * *All throughout the day, Nasty complained about everything. He griped that all Filipinos he encountered were dense and inefficient (I hope that didn’t include me!); that the traffic was horrendous and drivers “drove like they were late for their funerals”; that the pollution from the smoke-belching vehicles was irritating his dainty, surgically-pinched nose.

    He was disgusted that water closets didn’t work; horrified that there was no toilet paper in public toilets (“God, how do you people do it?” he bewailed); petrified by street children begging while soaking wet in the rain (“Where are the parents of these kids?” he nagged).

    He moaned about the proliferation of slums, people crossing the superhighways (“There should be underground or overhead walkways for pedestrians!” he demanded), the potholes on the streets, the disgusting garbage and filth all over the city, and the annoying floods! And all these he observed in just one day!

    Weeks after the publication of the article, I took Nasty’s silence to mean that of contempt and anger. I must admit that I didn’t care because I was really turned off by his arrogance. The good news is, Nasty has finally decided to break his silence and give us his side, loaded with a big piece of his mind. The bad news is, he hits more sensitive chords and it stings.

    * * *

    Nasty’s E-Mail
    Dear Dero,

    My Zen master says, “Never fight fire with fire.” So, I sat in a lotus position, imbibed the ethereal qualities of cool mountain water and stoically resisted the temptation of answering back to defend myself in rebuttal of your article. I kept quiet while you and your readers had a charlatan holiday, dissecting and fanning sarcasm on my every comment about your country and your people.

    I am not mad at you for writing that piece. I was never upset at any point, even after your readers from all over the world e-mailed in their two-cents’ worth. In fact, I found it rather amusing and carnival-like.

    I even felt happy that people still came to the defense of your Philippines!

    If you noticed, I now refer to the Philippines and Filipinos as your country and your people. Every time I went back there for vacation, my Filipino-ness always took the better of me (blame those damn green mangoes smothered with bagoong!) and made me forget that I am, in all reality, what you aptly called a “Little Brown American.” I have come to terms with my own identity- I am, after all, an American citizen carrying an American passport!

    What precipitated my quick decision to sever my ties with your country (aside from your ***** of an article) were the Abu Sayyaf abductions (que barbaridad!), the Payatas-like downslide of the peso (eat your hearts out, I earn sweet American dollars!), the “devoid of conscience” graft and corruption in your government (this has gone on for the longest time-how shameful!), and lately, the stupid “Juetengate” and juicy but enraging “Boracay” mansion gossips. With all these, who would be proud to be a Filipino? Besides, to tell you frankly, those Erap jokes are no longer funny- they are pass?and leave a bad taste in the mouth and heart. No Apology If I sounded brash and insensitive with the way I threw my comments, well, I cannot do any-thing about that because that is the way I am, and I offer no apology. Here, in America, you have to tell it like it is or you’ll never be taken seriously. I have learned to drop my “Pinoy sugarcoating” because out here, you get nothing done if you are meek and sweet and pa-api. Hindi puwede mag-Anita Linda dito!

    When I commented about your pollution, street children mendicants, slums,potholes, toilets that don’t work, garbage, floods, and most of all, the Pinoys’ chronic lack of discipline, I was merely putting into words what I saw. I can’t blame your being blind about your country’s situation.

    My Zen master says, “One cannot easily see the dirt in one’s eye.” I am sure though that you are aware of those sordid details, but have grown accustomed to them (like most Manile?s have). All the complaints I aired may have hurt your pride but what I wanted you to realize is this: The things I pointed out are all symptoms of a failing, falling nation!

    Suffering A National Karma?

    Could yours be a country cursed with a huge national karmic debt? It could be payback time, you know. Look back into your history, look deep inside your hearts-what could you have done as a nation to deserve this fiasco you are in today?

    What you are faced with didn’t just happen overnight-it developed and grew into a monster in the course of time. Deeply imbedded in the psyche of the Filipino is the amalgamation of the characters and events that have impacted your lives – Dona Victorina, Dona Concepcion, poor Sisa as well the other hilarious and tragic characters of Dr. Jose Rizal… Stonehill…the notorious gangsters immortalized by your Filipino movies like Asiong Salonga (hmmm!), et al…the killers in your (I thought they’d never end!) massacre movies…those cheap, appalling titles of your movies…those staged “religious miracles” that your naive masses believed…family men with pushy queridas (mistresses)…your crooked politicians, undependable police officers and greedy customs collectors…your bribe-hungry court judges…Imeldific, gloriously smiling and crying at the same time, bejeweled. (How very Fellini!)

    What you are is the sum total of your history, your heritage and culture,your education, the crap that your press sensationalizes, the bad icons that your movies glorify, the artificial values your advertising extols, the bad examples your leaders and role models project. What you feed your country’s mind is what it becomes. You have become the ugly monster that you’ve created. You are now crying all the tears your sickeningly sentimental movies wailed out for years and years!

    Your Biggest Fault

    If there is one thing that comes to mind, I think your biggest fault would be your individual greed. “Ako muna!” seems to be the national mantra. The trouble is, very few people think for the common good in a deplorable “to each his own kurakot” festival. Coupled by your crab mentality of pushing down others, this can be fatal. You think barangay, not national. Hello, everybody else around the world is thinking global! Europe is unshackling her national boundaries while you are building fences around your nipa huts.

    Do yourselves a favor and look at your nation as a ship. All of you are in it and it is sinking! Realize your oneness-what hurts your brother hurts you, too. Think about the future of your children and the succeeding generations, and do something about it quick before your poor little banca plunges forever into the irretrievable depths of despair.

    Star-Struck Nation

    You are a nation of star-struck ignoramuses. You are easily awed by your movie stars who are usually nothing but uneducated, aquiline-nosed and light-skinned ******** picked up from some gutter somewhere. I have seen what these artistas illusionadas can get away with. They just flash their capped-tooth smiles and policemen let them get away with traffic violations; they bat their false eyelashes and customs officers impose no duty on their suspicious balikbayan boxes.

    Worst of all, with the Filipino movie industry taking a nosedive, hordes of actors and show personalities went into politics. It is, as they say, the next best “racket”-there is more money to be made in the politicking business than in show business! (And what is this I hear that in the coming elections, more are jumping into the arena? Mag-hara-kiri na kayo!) How can you expect these comedians and actors, who only know how to take directions from their directors, to direct your nation? For them,politics will just be an “act”. No big surprise here, for they are mere actors with no original scripts to speak, no original visions to share. So what can you expect but a government that is a comedy of errors. Serves you and your star- struck nation right!

    My Zen master says, “Give unto Caesar what is due to Caesar, but keep Charlie Chaplin on the silver screen to make us laugh.” To survive, you must teach your citizenry to say no to three things – no to drugs, no to stealing and graft and corruption, and no to artistas in politics. I hope you’ve learned your lesson by now. (Yours is the only country where Mexican soap stars are received like royalty in the presidential palace. How shoddy! God forbid-Fernando Carrillo might end up being your next president. At least he has great abs and doesn’t wobble like a penguin when he walks!)

    For those artistas who honestly believe that they can make a positive difference in the Filipino masses’ life, they must first study law, business and public administration, and immerse themselves in the life and passion of Mother Teresa. Politics is not an art for dilettante artistas to dabble in. It is called “Political Science,” hello?!

    Educate Your Masses

    Educate the masses – especially your electorate. What you need is an intelligent vote aside from, of course, intelligent candidates. The University of San Carlos in Cebu City, founded in 1595, and the University of Santo Tomas in Manila, established in 1611, are the oldest universities in Asia, and are even older than Harvard. But the standard of Pinoy education has deteriorated so much that the Philippines ranks among the poorest in the educational hierarchy of Asia.

    Education, education, education-that’s what you need in this age of information, information, information.

    If all your social, religious and political sectors don’t sit down now and decide to take the Right Way, the Philippines and your children’s children will be grand losers in the worldwide rush to the future. Education is one sure way to salvation. Teach what is right, good, beautiful and beneficial.

    Downplay all negativity if you cannot eliminate it altogether.

    The Ideal President

    I’ve got news for you. (As if you didn’t already know.) No matter whom you put up there as your leader or president, it will be the same banana. Even a holy man can turn into another J. E. (Judas Escariot) for a few pieces of silver. Kumpares, alalays, relatives and cronies will encrust like flies and maggots on his cordon sanitaire. And it will be the same despicable “Sa amin na ‘to!” hullabaloo all over again.

    Take an advice from Aling Epang: “Pumili ng matanda, mayaman, mabait, at madaling mamatay.” Get a president who is old – so that he is full of wisdom, rich – so he won’t need to steal more money, goodhearted – so he will render heartfelt service to his people, and is in the sunset of his life – so that he will think of nothing but gaining good points to present when he meets his Creator. And may I add: At iisa lang ang pamilya! This is, of course, asking for the moon. Just pray fervently for an intelligent leader with a pure heart who genuinely loves the common tao!

    Magpakatotoo Kayo! Wake up and look at the real you. Enough with looking at your reflection in glorious, self-embellishing mirrors. The tropical sun can play tricks, you know. Do not wait for darkness to fall before you take that much-needed long, hard look at your real situation. Magpakatotoo kayo, ano? This isn’t a wake-up call-it is the final alarm!

    Save the ship while you still can. Don’t wait till your people have no more dreams left to hang on to, no more hope to sustain their broken spirits. I came home, spent my penny-pinched savings so that even in the minutest way I could help your bruised economy. Your politicians sit on their fat,farting butts and get balatos (kuno!) in the millions. Receivers are as guilty as the givers. Now, tell me, who is really nasty?

    I Have Made My Decision; So Should You.

    My Zen master says, “Life is all about decisions, not choices.” I have made a decision which I know will be very hard for me to keep- You will never hear from me again (not in this vein) and I will not even think of visiting or buwisiting your Manila ever. This is my way of letting you know that I have given up on you. Bahala na kayo! Only you can help yourselves because at the stage you are in, nobody would want to help you. My Zen master says, “You have to fall to learn to rise again.” How much lower do you want to go?

    Anyway, regarding the Philippines as a tourist destination, you have a lot of cleaning up and face-lifting to do before foreigners would dare go to your islands again. The Abu Sayyaf episode has done your tourism industry more damage than you could ever imagine, and it will take a long time before the world forgets. (By the way, your tourism projects are lusterless and have no global impact. If you want real business, spruce up your infrastructure and do aggressive marketing on the World Wide Web!)

    Of course, I would gladly reverse my decision if someone offered me exclusive lordship over lotto, bingo, jueteng, pintakasi and the jai alai.Think about it: this will be to your advantage because I never give tong or blood commission to anyone! (If only your president used the millions he received from those gambling lords to build homes for the masses, you wouldn’t have any more squatters. Huling hirit: defrost those Marcos billions, pay off some debt, place the rest in high-yield investments, feed your hungry, and spread bounty and joy to every Filipino! Are you stupid or what? – That’s your money sucked from the blood of your people!)

    I have made my decision, now make yours. I would hate for the day to come when I’d have to say, “I told you so!” Good luck! (You need it.)

    An ex-Filipino,

    J. Anastasio “Nasty”

    P. S. My Zen master says, “Vox populi is not always the voice of God.”

    P. P. S. Come over to L.A and I’ll show you a great time!

    P. P. P. S. Our friend Randy says hello! We will be going to Vancouver to feast our eyes on the colors of autumn. Wish you could join us.

    P. P. P. P. S. The new Miss America, Angela Perez Baraquio, is of Filipino ancestry. Dero, her parents hail from Pangasinan just like you! But keep in mind that she is an American (in case some wise fools over there claim her to be Filipino like they always do whenever someone becomes successful).

    Wait for the girl to say it- don’t put words in her mouth!

    P. P. P. P. P. S. Mabuhay kayo (SANA)!

    P. P. P. P. P. P. S. Sa totoo lang, MAGDUSA KAYONG LAHAT! (Don’t you just love my Waray-Kano accent?) He-he-he!

    – Same

    * * *

    My Short Reply

    Dear Nasty,

    Thanks for your e-mail. I swear you sort of stole the words from right under my tongue. Now, I am utterly speechless.

    Send my regards to Randy. Wishing you the best!

  21. hi lala:

    if I haven’t said it yet – thanks for the heads up.

    certainly most appreciated.

    cheers,
    🙂

  22. Mon permalink

    Among other things, my take is, one of the biggest deeply rooted problems of Pinoys is we never really had a “nation” to speak of. My almost-half a century brain cells recall from my PoliSci-101 that a nation is formed when a majority of its people found a collective vision that propels and encourages everyone to work on ways to improve the path in following that vision.

    This absence of nationhood is greatly illustrated in our dire strait of having a substantial sense of heritage. Having no past to be “proud’ of, we can’t have a healthy and truthful sense of the present; most want to “escape’ the past, the present and the future altogether by just leaving behind this archipelago, or watching Wowowee. I can’t blame both groups.

    Lacking greatly in having a grasp of the principles behind nationhood, we ended up as personality-centric collective of warm bodies. A snide against Pinoy doctors or Pacquiao ‘becomes a “national uproar’ because these personalities represent what we deem to be admirable about “us.’

    Cutting this short – we still have to evolve as a State, as a Nation.

    “Anti-pinoy” is doing a good job ticking the boxes of our painful truth, but “badgering’ the onion-skinned “am proud to be a Pinoy’ or “am proud of Noynoy” is not the best way to attract more “may be Anti-pinoy is right in what it espouses.’

    Following the psychotherapist example from the original post, not everyone is ready to sit down with his counselor to dissect his “dysfunctional” thinking process. A good therapist would know what he can do to “soften up” up a terminally ill patient to consider taking the bitter pill.

  23. I have this theory though: Filipinos are driven by hiya. We do things because the alternative is nakakahiya.

    “Don’t talk too loudly. Nakakahiya.”

    “Don’t piss on walls, nakakahiya“.

    Nakakahiya ka if you don’t finish your college degree.”

    So that is why I strongly believe that Filipinos need to be shamed into action. I recall a commentor already saying here that the softly-softly approach on Pinoys has all but failed. Despite so many symbols and monuments erected to imbue a sense of “pride” — Jose Rizal, the Flag, People Power, Independence (to the point of having to re-date that from 1946 to 1898), Gloria Diaz, and most recently Manny Pacquiao — there simply is nothing that underpins all that to sustain a NATURAL pride in being Filipino.

    The active ingredient in the pride in heritage we see in, say, the Japanese, Koreans, and the Chinese is achievement. And it is an ingredient that is so obviously MISSING in Filipino heritage. Those three great northeast Asian civilisations are not seen to be great simply because they are named as such. They are great because they have civilisations aged in the thousands of years that produced achievements of breathtaking stature.

    We can’t make the concept of “Filipino” great by erecting “great” and “magnificent” monuments and coming up with fancy symbols. When we produce, deliver, and ACHIEVE, we make whatever symbol of the Filipino that is ALREADY THERE associated with these achievements.

    So let’s not put the cart before the horse. Come the time that we achieve, greatness will surely follow. But to aspire to greatness without a resolve to achieve is nothing more than a mere set-up to failure.

  24. In Freddie’s case, it was delivered in a way that would start suntukan and pagmumura all over the place. The part that got a lot of people angry enough to throw him under the bus was : “”E, pinatototohanan lang ang sinabi ni Mariah Carey na tayong mga Filipino ay mga unggoy. Kasi, wala tayong sarili, gaya-gaya lang tayo”. That was a response to what he thinks about Arnel Pineda and Charice Pempegco

    I urge you to read the whole PEP article. His “controversial” rant had a lot more content than what was reported by the network news. It’s strange that a gossip rag presented a more balanced angle than the TV reports.

    http://www.pep.ph/news/22360/Freddie-Aguilar-says-Charice-and-Arnel-Pineda-prove-that-Filipinos-are-monkeys

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